Confessions of a Fugitive Mind
April 13, 2003
A Bit Harsh
I was a bit too hasty in my categorization of Dan a few days ago. I said he was a prick when I actually meant that he was acting like a prick.
Seems he read it and wasn't too happy about it. But then again, I wasn't too happy when I wrote it. So he came in to talk to me and got angry. He complained about me not cleaning up after Tia, leaving kitty toys and cat hair around the apartment. I felt that it was hard to draw the line between cleaning up after a cat and cleaning up after messy roommates. I told him that I try to clean up after her, but that I cannot and willnot be the only person cleaning the apartment. I don't make many complaints about him or his habits because I'm pretty easygoing. I'd rather scrub the nasty tub or wash week old food-crusted dishes than initiate a confontation.
I think what I was most upset about was that he never mentioned that he had a problem with Tia or me. He just made statements without talking to me about expectations or resolutions. It wasn't "if you want the cat on the futon, you'll need to clean up after her" or "could you try to get the cat hair off the futon" but "I don't want the cat on the futon." I guess my philosophy is that until you do your share, you aren't allowed to bitch. So, as long as I'm the only one making an effort to clean this apartment, any complaints about its cleanliness lose credibility.
Posted by criminal at April 13, 2003 08:16 PM
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"So, as long as I'm the only one making an effort to clean this apartment, any complaints about its cleanliness lose credibility."
I couldn't agree more. unfortunately everyone that I have ever lived with doesn't get this logic at all.
Posted by: Rachel at April 13, 2003 10:24 PM
Amen, sister!
Posted by: Amy at April 14, 2003 09:11 AM